Perception Switcher
“We don’t remember days. We remember moments”
— Cesare Pavese
Have you ever had the feeling that something special was made especially for you? A photograph, phrase, movie scene, music, or anything else which resonates so deeply inside you that it left a lasting effect on your mind and soul. That’s exactly what happened to me after I read this Cesare Pavese’s quote a few years back. Some of you must have seen me mentioning it in my bio or heard me quoting it.
Till this moment, I don’t even know who Cesare Pavese is and what he does except he is into literature and has made a difference in someone’s life. Life is full of moments but there are rare ones that we remember and cherish.
A general psychology or a thought pattern which I’ve seen in people is that they tend to believe that they should forget the nightmares or worst phases of their life. They believe that forgetting someone or something will help them move on from that incident but it’s all a lie. You can never forget about bad times. But yes, what you can do is learn from your mistakes and remember them to be more cautious in the future.
“Memories can’t leave us and we can’t leave memories behind even if they are good or bad. They will always remain a crucial part of us.”
My memories carry happiness, tears, good times, sad times, proud moments, nightmares, love, and judgments. Well, judgment is something that only looks good when there’s a talent show happening.
Judging people is a disease that the youth of our generation is highly affected by. I believe that every person has faced being judged and has also judged others.
We live in a world where judging people has become our second nature. The world where if you overdress, you’re not cool enough but if underdress, you’re a party pooper. Where if your scores are bad, you’re stupid but if you top the class, you’re a nerd. Where if you are skinny, “you need to eat more” but if you’re fat, “you need to lose weight” irrespective of how the person might feel. Where if you shop at forever 21, you are a rich brat but if you buy clothes from a local shop, you’re poor. Where if you aren’t a part of the “savage crowd”, you’re a loser but if you are a part of it, you’re a sheep following around. The world where we are all expected to live up to society’s expectations. The world where judgments are constantly passed on someone’s appearance, height, personality, behaviour, and so on. We live in a world where being yourself is a sin. This is a malicious loop that will continue if we don’t stop judging. Today we are judging someone, tomorrow we will be judged. And the loop will continue.
We don’t know what the other person is going through. We are not the ones in their shoes therefore we have no right to judge them. One judgment of ours can take someone’s life and one small acceptance can save someone’s life too. People don’t understand that each and every one of us is facing some kind of problem, small or large, that doesn’t matter but yes everyone is suffering. So stop judging because you don’t know what kind of battle they might be fighting.
“By judging others, you make yourself easy to judge”
— Ashly Lorenzana
©Meenal Garg🌺Perception Switcher
